Becoming a resource parent is a life-changing decision that impacts both your life and the life of the child you welcome into your home. However, the journey to becoming a resource parent is often clouded by misconceptions and misinformation.

These myths not only create confusion for prospective resource parents but also harm children in foster care by potentially deterring loving families from stepping forward to help. By addressing and dispelling these misconceptions, we can better support foster children and the families who care for them.

Resource Parents: The updated term for what was commonly known as “Foster Parents.”

Myth 1: Foster children are "problem" kids. 

FALSE

There are many reasons why a child has entered foster care, such as abuse, neglect, or parent challenges, not just because a child gets labeled as a “problem” child. Many children that come through foster care are there because their parents may be struggling. Foster care takes them in while the parents get help and settled so that they can support their children better. The number one goal with foster care is reunification with the children’s biological family. As a resource parent you can offer them a safe and nurturing environment during that time.  

At Victor we see many instances where families have been separated. We’re honored that we're able to watch them get the help they need, make the changes, and eventually reunite with their children.

One instance of that was the inspiring story of the Wilson Family who worked with the Victor Wraparound team. Read their story here.  

Myth 2: Resource parents are in it for the money. 

FALSE

This misconception couldn't be further from the truth. Resource parenting requires dedication, compassion, and a genuine desire to help children in need. While financial support is provided to cover the child's basic needs—such as food, clothing, and school supplies—it’s designed to ensure that the child is properly cared for, not to provide income for the foster family.

The process of becoming a resource parent involves rigorous screening, training, and continuous education. These requirements ensure that those who choose to foster are truly committed to providing a loving and supportive environment. Resource parents are motivated by a desire to make a positive difference in a child's life, offering stability, care, and guidance during a critical period.

Myth 3: Foster care is temporary and unstable. 

FALSE

 While foster care is intended to be temporary until children can safely return home or find a permanent placement, stability and support are crucial during this transitional period. 

Myth 4: You don’t have a child already and potential resource parents need parenting experience. 

False

The idea that you need to have children or previous parenting experience to be a successful resource parent is a misconception. Foster families come from diverse backgrounds and lifestyles, and what matters most is the ability to provide a safe, nurturing environment for children in need. Whether you are single or married, young or older, LGBTQ+, or have varying levels of income, you can make a significant difference in the life of a child.

The most crucial qualities for a resource parent are empathy, patience, and a genuine desire to support and care for children. Many resource parents are first-time caregivers who bring unique strengths and perspectives to their roles. Training and support provided by your local agencies make sure that resource parents are well-prepared and confident in their abilities.

Myth 5: Foster children will never be successful. 

False

The belief that foster children are destined to fail is a harmful stereotype that overlooks their incredible potential. With the right support and opportunities, foster children can overcome adversity and achieve their goals just like any other child. 

Resource parents and supportive foster agencies play a crucial role in providing the essential resources and support that foster children need to thrive. This includes access to quality education, extracurricular activities, mental health services, and life skills training. By fostering a nurturing environment, these children are given the tools to build self-confidence, resilience, and a positive outlook on life.

Many foster children possess a remarkable strength and determination developed through their life experiences. With encouragement and mentorship, they can channel these qualities into personal and professional success. 

Learn More About Becoming a Resource Parent 

At Victor, we appreciate the unique challenges that resource families encounter and strive to support them through their journeys. For more information on becoming a foster parent, contact a local foster agency to discover the resources and support they offer. We're here to assist you in any way we can, ensuring that you have what you need to create a loving and stable home for children in your care.

For more information about our programs and how we can help, visit our website or contact us today.