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Veteran Suicide Crisis: Serving Those Who Served Our Country

Posted by Victor Staff on September, 21, 2018

Veteran Suicide CrisisIn a recent article, NBC reported that veterans are twice as likely as civilians to commit suicide. This was based on the most recent report by the Department of Veterans Affairs. That's an alarming statistic that translates to about 20 veterans dying by suicide every single day. Victor Community Support Services has been an engaged county partner in training and suicide prevention events for years. In collaboration with other support services in our communities we do our best to support veterans in need of help. Too often however, we don't get to meet them until they've reached a point of crisis. 

Adjusting to Civilian Life After Deployment

After 5 years of service in the Navy, with one overseas deployment, this particular veteran seemed to adjust well to civilian life. He and his wife created a lifestyle that “checked off all the boxes”: full time work, house, property, children, camping and fun outings…but emotionally, he felt like he was suffocating. The client and his wife talked past each other, minimized each other’s needs, and thought that going through the motions of marriage would be enough. The routines that could have been comforting instead felt monotonous. He carried on a secret affair, but even the excitement of something new couldn’t make him feel any better. The guilt he felt only suffocated him further. He couldn't see a way out, without causing himself and the people he cared about significant pain. He woke up one morning and collapsed on the floor, thinking, “I can’t do this.”

A Moment of Crisis

This veteran drove himself to a bridge overpass and considered jumping off, but he just couldn’t end his life. After calls for help to family and local law enforcement, the client was secured on a 72-hour hold in a local psychiatric hospital. Then he was remitted into the hospital for another 2 weeks. As the acute risk of danger to himself had passed, he was discharged to the care of a local psychiatrist. The psychiatrist prescribed medication, recommended outpatient individual and couples therapy to address the clear breakdowns in communication, and referred them to VCSS Military Family and Support Program.


Treatment helped the client to understand the emotions he was feeling, and ways to label and express them- something that was not modeled for him by his family of origin and actively avoided during his time in the Navy. “We did our work, drank a little on the weekend, and just lived life”. The client began to see that his attempts to hide from his emotions and run from the consequences of his decisions had backfired. He and his wife began a new paradigm in communication of needs and boundaries. Over time, they worked through infidelity and rebuilt connection.

The client began to understand how the effort it took to hide could be the very tool to rebuild the joy and collaborative spirit in his marriage. As he began to see hope in his family, the desire to end his life diminished, and then remitted. The affair was over; divorce is no longer on the table. He created a wellness plan to help him crystallize the aspects of life that helped him and his family to thrive, and he began to see how he could be part of the joy of his family instead of just the routine or the pain. He and his wife still have a road to recovery ahead of them, but now, they can describe the gifts that they bring to the relationship that will keep them going: honesty, teamwork, fun, collaboration, communication, and setting boundaries.

Community Collaboration

To date, the success of this veteran was only possible because of collaborative partners; we are part of a larger community of providers, all of whom are willing to refer and manage their scope in the service of our veterans. Talk to the veterans in your life. We need to normalize the conversation about PTSD, depression and veteran suicide. If we are going to improve, it needs to be out in the open. Know how to connect veterans to local services in your community so they can get the support they need.


For confidential 24 hour Crisis Support contact the Veterans Crisis Line. They operate 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year. Call 800-273-8255 and press 1, chat online at  or text to 838255


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