In times of crisis, whether it’s a natural disaster, a global pandemic, or personal hardships, families face numerous challenges. For resource parents, these challenges can be even more complex as they strive to provide a stable, loving home for children in need. During such times, the role of a resource parent becomes even more crucial as they navigate the delicate balance between managing their own emotions and providing unwavering support to the children in their care.
This blog will offer guidance on how to navigate these difficult times with resilience, ensuring that both you and the children in your care feel supported and secure.
Communication Is Key
When a crisis hits, it affects everyone in different ways. Children, especially those who have experienced trauma, may feel more anxious or scared. They might not understand what’s happening, which can lead to feelings of uncertainty. As a resource parent, it’s important to recognize these emotions and provide reassurance and communication.
Communicating with your foster child is one of the most important things you can do during a crisis. Explain the situation in words that they understand. Let them know it’s okay to feel scared or confused and that you are there to keep them safe. Encourage them to ask questions and express their feelings. It’s also helpful to validate their feelings by acknowledging their fears and concerns. Phrases like "I understand that you’re scared, and that’s okay" can go a long way in helping a child feel understood and supported. By creating an environment where they feel heard, you help build trust and security.
Establishing Routine and Structure
During a crisis or difficult time, maintaining routines and a sense of normalcy is essential for helping children feel secure. Disruptions can create feelings of instability, so it’s important to keep consistent daily schedules. Sticking to simple routines like regular mealtimes, bedtime rituals, and time for schoolwork or play can make a big difference in creating a stable environment.
Also, continuing with hobbies, celebrating special occasions, or simply enjoying time together as a family can help maintain normalcy in your home. This structure helps children feel safe and grounded, even when the world around them might feel uncertain, depending on the crisis.
Providing Emotional Support
Resource parents play a big role in providing emotional support during challenging times. Children might have big feelings they don’t know how to handle. They might become more withdrawn, act out, or struggle with tasks they usually manage well. It’s important to approach these changes with patience and empathy rather than frustration. Remember that these behaviors are often a way for children to express their fear or confusion.
A helpful tip is to use calming activities like reading together, playing games, or doing arts and crafts to help them relax. Remember, your calm and supportive presence can help them feel safe.
Connecting with Community Resources
You don’t have to go through your difficult times alone. There are many community services available to help resource parents and the children in their care during a difficult time. Reach out to your local support networks, such as school counselors, community mental health clinics, and your agency’s support team. These professionals can provide guidance, counseling, and additional resources to help you and your children.
The resource parents that choose to partner with Victor FFA have dedicated Victor staff members who will help you navigate difficult times. Victor also offers services focused on mental health, education, and additional support, all of which you can access as needed. For even more assistance, you can join our monthly meetings where we provide valuable information and answer any questions you may have as a resource parent.
Self-Care for Resource Parents
Taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of the children in your home. It’s easy to get overwhelmed during a crisis, but it’s important to remember that you need to be strong and healthy to provide the best care.
Make time for self-care, whether it’s a few minutes of quiet time, a walk outside, or talking with a friend. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you need it. Your well-being is crucial for maintaining a stable, loving environment for the children.
The Power of Resilience
Resilience is the ability to bounce back from difficult situations, and it’s a powerful tool for both you and the children in your care. Building resilience means developing coping skills, staying positive, and focusing on solutions rather than problems.
Teaching resilience also involves modeling it yourself. Show the children how you manage stress and adapt to changes with a positive attitude. By demonstrating resilience, you provide an example that they can learn from and copy.
It’s important to remember that resilience is not about being unaffected by challenges, but rather about finding the strength to keep going despite them. Encourage the children to see obstacles as opportunities for growth and to approach problems with a solution-oriented mindset. Over time, these skills will help them navigate some of life’s challenges.
At Victor FFA, we understand the importance of resilience in both resource parents and the children they care for. That’s why we offer a variety of resources and training specifically designed to help you build your resilience. Through our programs, you’ll gain practical tools and strategies to manage stress, stay positive, and model resilience for the children in your care. Our goal is to empower you to not only overcome challenges but to thrive in the face of adversity.
Victor Treatment Centers and Victor FFA: Your Partners in Crisis
At Victor FFA, we understand the unique challenges that resource families face. With over 95 years of experience in helping children and families, we are committed to being a catalyst for sustained improvement in the lives of those we touch. Our team is here to support you every step of the way, offering guidance, resources, and a strong community network to help you navigate through difficult times.
From the moment you join our community, you are partnered with a team that includes experienced foster care social workers and access to a wide range of services. We offer ongoing training, 24-hour agency support, and connections to essential community resources. Our goal is to ensure that you have everything you need to provide a stable, loving environment for the children in your care.
